How many times do we rush through moments, even when there is no need to?

How often are we stressed during an experience even though that stress is doing nothing to move our experience in a positive direction?

We need to consciously and intentionally make the choice to enjoy the moments and experiences we have.

 On a recent business trip to Scottsdale, AZ, our VBL presentation was quickly approaching and my coworker and I still needed to grab lunch.  As the waiter approached our table, we said hello and made it clear that we were in a hurry and would place our order now and take the check as soon as possible.  It was then that our waiter looked at my coworker and said, “Excuse me sir, please move over.” We just looked at him with somewhat blank stares when he continued, “I know you are in a rush, but regardless of how fast we get you food, you will still be here for a few minutes so you might as well move over in your seat and relax!”

Looking at my coworker I saw exactly what he meant.  He was perched on the edge of our booth with one foot flexed on the floor, like he could make a run for it at a moments notice.  His entire body was stiff and balanced on the outside leg and his arm was basically gripping the side of the table.

He must have realized to, for he took a deep breath, released the table, and moved in a few inches to what appeared to be a much more comfortable seated position. After we placed our order and the waiter left, we commented on how perceptive our waiter, Dave, was. His words rang true. Regardless of how we chose to handle the situation, we would be in that café for at least 30 minutes.  It is a much better use of our time to reenergize and spend 30 minutes relaxing then spend those 30 minutes tense and anxious.

I took two really important reminders out of this quick experience.

  1. I need to keep myself in the here-and-now. If I chose to attend an event, I should spend the time at the event 100% engrossed in the topic on hand, not being concerned with what else I could have done during that time or what I have to do once I leave.
  2. We need to have our social antennas up. Friends, family, and even strangers sometimes need a reminder to slow down and “smell the roses”. That gentle reminder may also give them the opportunity to schooch over in their booth, take a breath, and relax!



Danielle Aaronson

Danielle Aaronson

Danielle’s mission is to inspire leaders to make intentional choices that move them to positive action. She speaks at conferences, management summits, and leadership programs as well as facilitates efforts with executives and senior leaders at organizations seeking to influence their culture. Her mantra, “be the change you wish to see in the world” has allowed her to strive every day to be the best she can be and help others recognize the potential they have to make a positive difference. @deaaronson

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