Every day is composed of moments. There is the moment your alarm goes off, the moment you decide if you are going to hit snooze or get up and go to the gym. There is the moment you choose your clothes. There is the moment you are driving to work and get stuck in traffic and the moment you walk into the office and interact with your coworkers. The moment your phone rings and your email dings. The moment your computer loses the 2 hours of work you forgot to save and the moment you run into a meeting late.

In each of these moments we have the choice of how we react. Stephen Covey, in his book, “7 Habits for Highly Effective People,” discusses that in the time between the stimulus and our response rests our freedom to choose. It is ineffective to view myself as products of my circumstances but effective to view myself as a product of my choices.

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances.” –George Bernard Shaw

But, regardless of how much we work on being proactive, sometimes, those moments get us down. Now- the important part is how that moment impacts our next moment, or the moment after that. Getting stuck in traffic may upset you (I know it does me), but if I allow that moment of being upset to negatively impact the rest of my day, I am not taking control of my life and aligning myself with who I want to be.

You have control over whether you have a good day or a bad day. Bad moments will pop up- they may be a moment of frustration, a moment of hurt, a moment of anger- but that’s all it is, a moment. That moment will pass, and it is how you choose to let it impact the next moment that allows you to lead.

We all have bad moments, the question is, are you allowing a bad moment to create a bad day?



Danielle Aaronson

Danielle Aaronson

Danielle’s mission is to inspire leaders to make intentional choices that move them to positive action. She speaks at conferences, management summits, and leadership programs as well as facilitates efforts with executives and senior leaders at organizations seeking to influence their culture. Her mantra, “be the change you wish to see in the world” has allowed her to strive every day to be the best she can be and help others recognize the potential they have to make a positive difference. @deaaronson

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